tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post7141737277094231216..comments2011-10-05T19:00:08.698-07:00Comments on Birth Source Inc. Blog: The Tattooed DoulaTraceyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03078147650729680018noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post-43328845899131662632010-11-20T09:44:08.944-08:002010-11-20T09:44:08.944-08:00I would hire a tattooed doula. I'm pretty sure...I would hire a tattooed doula. I'm pretty sure the fact that I have a tattoo doesn't influence that decision, it would be more about who I meshed with the doula and how passionate she was about birth and supporting my decisions/plans etc.Daleen Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01838943147460411646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post-34081339779562199112010-11-20T08:30:57.365-08:002010-11-20T08:30:57.365-08:00I find tattoos a beautiful expression and would fe...I find tattoos a beautiful expression and would feel very comfortable with a tattood doula. Specifically I feel doulas are still on the "cutting edge" of birth/woman care (although y understanding of the practice is that it is ancient). Being cutting edge, to me, means you think outside the box, the norm, the standard... tattoos reflect that to me - they tell me you are comfortable with expression and with your body. Two important things I need from my doula.<br /><br />The bond I form, or my decision to hire a doula would not be negatively impacted by tattoos. It may, rather, solidify my decision to hire her.<br /><br />:)Jordanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12492723842066599922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post-87607733236776912062010-11-20T07:46:37.130-08:002010-11-20T07:46:37.130-08:00Hi JLB,
Thanks for your insight into this questio...Hi JLB,<br /><br />Thanks for your insight into this question, it offers another perspective that I think many people would share with you. <br /><br />Absolutely it is everyone's right to choose who they want to work with for whatever reason they choose. Ideally both are comfortable.<br /><br />Regarding your comment: "I don't like seeing you slam others for not accepting you and you are doing the same to them. You like tattoos, they don't; what makes you more right? You don't want anyone telling you what to do with your body, why should you set the parameters for others? What sense of entitlement gives you this "right"?<br /><br />I didn't slam anyone in my post, suggest any parameters for anyone or call anyone small minded, just pondering based on my recent experience is all. <br /><br />The question really is... people can like a person and feel good about them and if they discover they have tattoos does that change?Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03078147650729680018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post-3240562457427689552010-11-19T12:22:58.586-08:002010-11-19T12:22:58.586-08:00Interesting reading your post. I personally would...Interesting reading your post. I personally would refuse to be treated by a dentist or dental assistant with facial piercings becasue to me that says you like pain. I also plain and simple, get grossed out by them and will not pat to get an up close view of them for the duration of my teethg cleaning. On theat same note, I would not see a dentist or hygenist who has a full beard, grosses me out, triggers me. MY choice. My values. Becasue I am paying, I get to choose who I hire.<br /><br />I vehemently support your right to have all the tattoos that you want but you also have to understand that other have the right to express thier opinion based on their feelings and comfort level. It's not necesasrily being small minded or judgemental, it's just personal comfort. I don't like seeing you slam others for not accepting you and you are doing the same to them. You like tattoos, they don't; what makes you more right? You don't want anyone telling you what to do with your body, why should you set the parameters for others? What sense of entitlement gives you this "right"? Comparing being rejected for tattoo's to skin colour is way off target and rites of passage in other countries is really moot unless you come from those other countries.<br /><br />I would also never hire anyone with tattoos that cannot be consealed during work hours. As my employee, you represent me and my company and directly impact the success or lack of same. Becasue I cannot tell one employee that the cute daisy is Ok and tell the next that the grim reaper or the LOVE/ HATE knuckles are not I keep a single standard. Getting tattoos is a choice; you have one and so does everyone else in how they accept/deal with you. The statement you are making may not be something others want to hear; and that is theri choice which I fully support. It is a beautiful tat : ).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134105730199157190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post-45776129366932877432010-11-15T17:40:29.331-08:002010-11-15T17:40:29.331-08:00Monica, has your doula work been affected by your ...Monica, has your doula work been affected by your skin colour? I have heard stories about American doulas experiencing discrimination.<br /> <br />Well, you and I both know the connection is either there or it is not no matter what. This is the most important thing :)Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03078147650729680018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post-11186782741132591942010-11-15T08:29:43.935-08:002010-11-15T08:29:43.935-08:00Hey Tracey. Judgement just speaks to the ignorance...Hey Tracey. Judgement just speaks to the ignorance of so many. As you know, tatoos are such a rite of passage and honor to so many in the world. <br />As far as the phone conversation scenario, as a visible minority Doula I live that experience everyday, but I have come to realize that when an expectant mom "connects" with you through phone conversation, something magical takes place. You could be pink with blue polka dots and it wouldn't matter!<br />Great article!doulananahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00516989475464898063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post-39949781872067254472010-11-15T06:27:31.066-08:002010-11-15T06:27:31.066-08:00Lee-Ann my tattoo hasn't affected me personall...Lee-Ann my tattoo hasn't affected me personally, but I often wonder if it could have when I was working full time as a doula.<br /><br />It isn't always visible so often people don't even know about it until I wear a short sleeve shirt.<br /><br />Funny how people lack the intelligence to edit before they open their mouths. "How are you going to kiss your baby with that thing in your lip" honestly!! <br /><br />The impression someone has over the phone can perhaps be over ridden by the visual appearance of a person. It is kind of sad.Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03078147650729680018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8951944004631501344.post-46166228765716908392010-11-14T21:43:11.423-08:002010-11-14T21:43:11.423-08:00I know I have hear "I didn't know people ...I know I have hear "I didn't know people like you could be good mothers" and from the ER receptionist, checking me in with pre-term labour "How are You going to kiss your baby with that thing in your lip?"<br />So I know the rudeness and misjudgment abounds. I have also hear from well meaning friends, "I don't even notice the stuff in your face anymore..."<br />So welcome to the club, I guess.<br />As far as the doula perception goes, we all make a mental picture of people we first meet over the phone, and sometimes the phone pic doesn't match what's in our heads. Will that sometimes break the relationship, maybe. It could be tattoos, or age, or manner of dress. <br />But I love your tattoo Tracey and nuts to the small minded who can't get over themselves to meet the person under the art!Lee-Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13756695253285114265noreply@blogger.com